tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8527908250630994905.post626789682973192844..comments2023-10-22T19:44:48.286+05:30Comments on Deepa's Kaleidoscope: Guwahati's shame or India's?<a href="https://fictionpies.com">Deepa from FictionPies</a>http://www.blogger.com/profile/08190726711949079567noreply@blogger.comBlogger42125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8527908250630994905.post-47072507952534811062012-12-05T15:07:03.643+05:302012-12-05T15:07:03.643+05:30I hear you!I hear you!<a href="https://fictionpies.com">Deepa from FictionPies</a>https://www.blogger.com/profile/08190726711949079567noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8527908250630994905.post-60135157529905742982012-12-05T15:06:48.946+05:302012-12-05T15:06:48.946+05:30Ah Janu, I wish the solution was that simple! Igno...Ah Janu, I wish the solution was that simple! Ignore and be ignored, wouldn't that be cool! But unfortunately this simple thing doesn't appeal to certain men!<a href="https://fictionpies.com">Deepa from FictionPies</a>https://www.blogger.com/profile/08190726711949079567noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8527908250630994905.post-86608555356522525282012-11-24T12:52:19.808+05:302012-11-24T12:52:19.808+05:30Shame on us if we say a girl isn't even safe i...Shame on us if we say a girl isn't even safe in a crowd :-[Kappuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10030279740286774339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8527908250630994905.post-87685760928587667832012-08-21T09:07:46.132+05:302012-08-21T09:07:46.132+05:30Deepa..wonderful article. Men will be men. Ignore ...Deepa..wonderful article. Men will be men. Ignore them.JANUhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06983287092498427967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8527908250630994905.post-32081614079772604202012-08-21T01:07:50.762+05:302012-08-21T01:07:50.762+05:30Incredulous isn't it! I wish there was a '...Incredulous isn't it! I wish there was a 'Like' button here Farila! Would have did that now for your statement :) <a href="https://fictionpies.com">Deepa from FictionPies</a>https://www.blogger.com/profile/08190726711949079567noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8527908250630994905.post-49673333160747362572012-08-21T00:47:19.540+05:302012-08-21T00:47:19.540+05:30Who is he kidding? Do not avoid the company of unk...Who is he kidding? Do not avoid the company of unknown men if you think you like it??? Chapters From My Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07905577212056834284noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8527908250630994905.post-10085016443458155222012-08-20T15:03:15.522+05:302012-08-20T15:03:15.522+05:30@ Jayan Memom: I think you stay in a dream world o...@ Jayan Memom: I think you stay in a dream world or a world so removed from reality that you have no clue as to what you are saying. <br />Read this and then you will know what Deepa has written makes complete sense<br />http://www.hindustantimes.com/India-news/NewDelhi/Unsafe-in-the-city/Article1-822473.aspxLazy Pineapplehttp://www.lazypineapple.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8527908250630994905.post-51899646281611485052012-08-20T11:07:06.953+05:302012-08-20T11:07:06.953+05:30Not true. I do not say 'Dont party' and I ...Not true. I do not say 'Dont party' and I will never say that. If you notice, my first point in the list says 'If you're going to a party, carry your heels in a carry-bag.'. I do not say 'Dont go to the party'. But again, as I said, better safe than sorry. This is not a feminism fight, not a fight for equal rights. Its more a call for safety, for awareness. Unfortunately, the sad thing that you mentioned, is more frequently happening and in a lot more parts in the country. Guwahati only got publicized more than the others. One doesn't need to be afraid, but one does need to be careful, aware. And last but not the least, I will repeat this. Do not put up with abuse. Be it verbal or physical. From a man or a woman. Family or otherwise.<a href="https://fictionpies.com">Deepa from FictionPies</a>https://www.blogger.com/profile/08190726711949079567noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8527908250630994905.post-80870144410365031502012-08-20T10:58:00.323+05:302012-08-20T10:58:00.323+05:30Agreed. Men are targets too. No denying that. But ...Agreed. Men are targets too. No denying that. But why would you think that women are not attacked for money? But then women lately have to bear the brunt of sexual assaults too. Also agreed that men could be targets of sexual assaults too but in a country like India, that number might be far less (at least the reported ones) which also brings up an interesting point that not all crimes against women get reported either. <br /><br />And honestly, what makes you think this is an isolated incident? The papers everyday show at least half a dozen cases - new ones every day. We've come to a point in time today where the law and order machinery has broken down as far as crimes are concerned. If a mother and her 17 year old daughter can kick and punch a pregnant nurse causing her to miscarry - then I think there's nothing wrong when I say that be prepared to defend yourself. I do not say that start whipping out your pepper spray at every person who talks to you - but at the end of the day I would be rather safe than sorry.<a href="https://fictionpies.com">Deepa from FictionPies</a>https://www.blogger.com/profile/08190726711949079567noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8527908250630994905.post-59931335895119642032012-08-18T11:11:00.509+05:302012-08-18T11:11:00.509+05:30Unfortunately it is you, a woman who ask women to ...Unfortunately it is you, a woman who ask women to surrender their enjoyments and be vigilant. <br /><br />As a citizen of India, I would like to comment on the Guwahati incident as<br /><br />My dear ladies, <br />A sad thing happened. It happens once in a while at some part of our country. It is really sad to tell you that you need to be careful when you are alone at a public place. But do not be afraid. Live your life as you like. Do not avoid the company of unknown men if you think you like it. But be aware that some incidents have happened. <br />Last but not least, never ever gave up an enjoyable moment in your life because of these incidents. Live the way you want. Jayan Menonhttp://blotonpaper.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8527908250630994905.post-82572586294697409532012-08-18T11:02:04.937+05:302012-08-18T11:02:04.937+05:30Very sad to see posts like these from you and othe...Very sad to see posts like these from you and other bloggers. <br /><br />It is not just women who are attacked. We men are also attacked for money. Lonely roads or empty train compartments are not safe for us also. <br /><br />Condemning the Guwahati incident is good. Giving awareness is also good. But combining these two and saying like if you women do not take extra care, you could be molested at anywhere at any moment is not good. I do not think India has become such a country where you can't live without pepper spray. It is like exhorting all men to carry guns so that they won't be marauded on road.<br /><br />In this post you are saying in India women can't live safely in a soceity. That is totally wrong. You may ask that is not single incident enough? What if it happens to you if you are a girl? The answer is the question what if you are a man and you are waylaid or killed at night while traveling a lonely road? Should you have carried guns with you?<br />Jayan Menonhttp://blotonpaper.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8527908250630994905.post-1199802585285704042012-08-04T11:34:49.239+05:302012-08-04T11:34:49.239+05:30Meera, no law and order cannot alone be blamed for...Meera, no law and order cannot alone be blamed for the current situation. It has a lot of do with mentality also. How women raise their sons and daughters. Some of the statements from NCW representatives are sickening to say the least. If the upholders of women rights have such degraded opinions, then do we have any hope? However, cultural psychology changes will take a while as its a gradual process. Generations even. But since we do not have fast track courts or instant arrests the best we can do right now is be armed, be prepared.<a href="https://fictionpies.com">Deepa from FictionPies</a>https://www.blogger.com/profile/08190726711949079567noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8527908250630994905.post-48951824667231167022012-08-04T11:31:59.235+05:302012-08-04T11:31:59.235+05:30Thanks KayEm.Thanks KayEm.<a href="https://fictionpies.com">Deepa from FictionPies</a>https://www.blogger.com/profile/08190726711949079567noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8527908250630994905.post-63953852214880640702012-08-02T23:23:57.372+05:302012-08-02T23:23:57.372+05:30Deepa, it is just the law and order issue that is ...Deepa, it is just the law and order issue that is the problem. It is also a problem that people think that may be "she asked for it"- after all was she not coming out of a bar? Did not some minister in Kolkata make a statement about the lady who was molested in a cab after she came out of a bar? The idea is if you go to a bar when you must be a whore! If you are alone at night you must be looking for some sex...!!! Really the attitude of people pains me!! Your tips were most useful and practical. I am sharing them with my friends<br /><br />PS Thanks for visiting my blog. I had assumed it to be another Deepa I know. Took me some time to figure out that it was someone else :PMeera Sundararajanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15584671517551652378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8527908250630994905.post-55655367143208154372012-07-31T10:37:54.989+05:302012-07-31T10:37:54.989+05:30VERY good advice, Deepa.VERY good advice, Deepa.Khoty Mathurhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09706537182743683089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8527908250630994905.post-86858324112441886632012-07-30T14:29:00.829+05:302012-07-30T14:29:00.829+05:30Very true. How can someone stand by watching mutel...Very true. How can someone stand by watching mutely is beyond me. Guess the latest improvements in policies with respect to bystanders might help. Well, its not an excuse but earlier bystanders would get themselves embroiled in so much legal complications that it had become a deterrent, add it to the threats from the perpetrators and risk to their own lives. But now seems like on that front, they're going to make it easier on people who help victims.<a href="https://fictionpies.com">Deepa from FictionPies</a>https://www.blogger.com/profile/08190726711949079567noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8527908250630994905.post-72846353261369442152012-07-27T13:37:14.584+05:302012-07-27T13:37:14.584+05:30THe people who watched are the worst .. because on...THe people who watched are the worst .. because one of them is going to be a molester soon as they see no one comes out to save a person .. This gives them the idea <br /><br /><br /><a href="http://mannbikram.wordpress.com" rel="nofollow">Bikram's</a>Bikramhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17320753339263375295noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8527908250630994905.post-1229666977543067352012-07-25T10:52:50.100+05:302012-07-25T10:52:50.100+05:30Much as I want it to be a change in the individual...Much as I want it to be a change in the individual's mentality and attitude towards women, I have a feeling that's not going to happen. Effective hard hitting law and order enforcement seems to be the only way out!<a href="https://fictionpies.com">Deepa from FictionPies</a>https://www.blogger.com/profile/08190726711949079567noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8527908250630994905.post-61505933619617020912012-07-25T10:40:50.821+05:302012-07-25T10:40:50.821+05:30I just read recently that the media reporter who r...I just read recently that the media reporter who recorded the entire incident was also taken into custody. Apparently, he's the one who incited the incident and also has ties to the main accused. If this is what the media has now resorted to doing in order to gain fame, then God save us!<a href="https://fictionpies.com">Deepa from FictionPies</a>https://www.blogger.com/profile/08190726711949079567noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8527908250630994905.post-86242657435911648102012-07-25T10:38:25.549+05:302012-07-25T10:38:25.549+05:30Much as I think the mute spectators should be fine...Much as I think the mute spectators should be fined/arrested also for being passive participants, incidents like the road rage accident where a bystander intervened, got hit by a baseball bat and lost his memory for a good amount of time also do bring up questions. People hate getting involved because of such risks and all the red tape involved. For this very reason, effective law and order enforcing and nothing else will help it improve. Will read your letter now! :)<a href="https://fictionpies.com">Deepa from FictionPies</a>https://www.blogger.com/profile/08190726711949079567noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8527908250630994905.post-36795527240553641672012-07-25T10:12:07.168+05:302012-07-25T10:12:07.168+05:30Law and order is becoming a very serious problem i...Law and order is becoming a very serious problem in this country. In the name of democracy, Indians are now simply creating havoc, taking law into their own hands and running amok. On one hand there are the never ending womens' security issues. On the other mobs ransacking hospitals if a patient dies, overturning automobile plants and killing management, vandalizing toll booths on the behest of a politician who's aim in life seems to be to incite and provoke - even as the police stand mutely and do not do anything against them. Well, not surprising considering they have better things to do - like do the interiors for their higher-in-command's retirement home. Its a sad state of affairs. Going to the dogs I tell you.<a href="https://fictionpies.com">Deepa from FictionPies</a>https://www.blogger.com/profile/08190726711949079567noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8527908250630994905.post-52536085934402850972012-07-25T10:08:34.589+05:302012-07-25T10:08:34.589+05:30Just did and left you a comment! Excellent satire!...Just did and left you a comment! Excellent satire! Will keep coming back for more!<a href="https://fictionpies.com">Deepa from FictionPies</a>https://www.blogger.com/profile/08190726711949079567noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8527908250630994905.post-6749777298859599102012-07-16T11:27:28.301+05:302012-07-16T11:27:28.301+05:30Good timely tips Deepa. I hope things change. Thin...Good timely tips Deepa. I hope things change. Things cannot go like this forever.amithttp://mashedmusings.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8527908250630994905.post-54211950006459274242012-07-16T10:23:36.709+05:302012-07-16T10:23:36.709+05:30Sure will Rickie.Sure will Rickie.<a href="https://fictionpies.com">Deepa from FictionPies</a>https://www.blogger.com/profile/08190726711949079567noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8527908250630994905.post-65970537908895528042012-07-16T10:22:37.962+05:302012-07-16T10:22:37.962+05:30Well Rachna, remember the recent article where a S...Well Rachna, remember the recent article where a Sanjeev Jaiswal, NRI intervened a street fight and got hit in the head with a baseball bat? Losing his memory, unable to recognize his wife and 6 year old daughter for a few initial weeks after that? Well, am glad he got his memory back and I feel good and proud in humanity when he says that if the need be he would do it all over again. He refuses to be a mute spectator. But how many of us would do that? Everyone's worried for their own self. I agree that by oneself, it's difficult to take matters into your own hands, but what about a mass of people? There's power in numbers. If a mob were to intervene, the perps would never even think of carrying out such ghastly acts in plain view. As the old legendary tale goes, you can break one stick by itself. But bunch them all together, they become too strong to be broken.<a href="https://fictionpies.com">Deepa from FictionPies</a>https://www.blogger.com/profile/08190726711949079567noreply@blogger.com